According to a psychologist, two types of remarks can particularly damage a relationship and are best avoided.
1. Comments about bodily changes. Highlighting a partner’s physical alterations—whether weight gain, aging signs or minor features—can trigger insecurity and emotional distance. Even if the intent is harmless, focusing on the body shifts attention away from connection and toward judgment.
2. Unconstructive criticism. Offering feedback that lacks empathy or fails to include support and actionable direction often alienates rather than helps. When criticism comes across as dismissive or harsh, it can erode trust, increase defensiveness and block open communication.
Rather than making these kinds of comments, the psychologist suggests adopting a more helpful tone: focus on patterns you’d like to change together, acknowledge your own role, and invite cooperation. In nurturing relationships, what matters most is kindness, mutual respect and communication that builds bridges instead of walls.
